UNSOLICITED ADVICE AND THOUGHTLESS COMMENTS
You have been working for years and yet, you have not been able to afford a good phone (or something else).
This pimples on your face are terrible, go and buy so and so to clear it
Why does your hair keep balding in front of your head?
You have been married 2years when do you hope to start trying to have kids? etc..
Go and get married, you are not getting younger.
What are you always doing with your salary that you cannot help Mr or Ms so and so?
Why are your eyeballs always red, do you smoke?
Have you ever been asked one of those questions or similar ones?
The answer to those is obvious; its definitely a YES!
Many of us have been recipients of unsolicited advice and thoughtless comments at different times. The problem is even though the advice may seen reasonable sometimes, it is annoying.
The major problem with these advisers is that they just sit somewhere and assume they know exactly what your problem is. They then walk straight up to you and deliver their message like a prophet sent by God to proclaim doom.
A good friend of mine once made a comment about my face when I changed my dp. He said something nasty about the pimples I had then. I felt I was beautiful in that picture till he made me realize that I wasn't.
He zoomed in the picture and all he could saw were the spots on my face. I felt really bad and I took courage to tell him exactly how I felt. He apologized but words are like eggs, they can't be repaired after they have fallen.
These people take up the role of Mr 'I know it all' without having the slightest hint about the real situation and what steps you have taken to make it better. Nobody likes to be laughed at. And as if that is not enough, they go ahead and sit somewhere watching to see if you would or would not heed their advice.
They forget that right in their own eyes is a huge beam hindering them from properly analyzing the situation. They go around trying to remove the dust from other peoples' eyes.
Some persons have all the advise about how to make another persons child behave well while they forget about their troubled children. They know why others aren't getting things right in their lives whilst forgetting that thers is not perfect either.
It is disheartening that most people don't know when they are offering unsolicited advice or making a nasty comment. They seem to have good intentions.
My question is ....Are you sure you aren't guilty of such? Think about how many times you made a thoughtless comment about someone. You might have said it like a joke and everyone laughed it off but the person who is the subject of the discussion might not have found it funny. Some of those comments make people cry and feel miserable.
Many men and women in our society have different things they struggle with. For some its their health condition, financial status, marital challenges, family issues, jobs, addictions etc. The list is inexhaustible.
We owe our fellows a duty to make them live life in peace. If you can't make someone happy, don't make them feel worse.
As you read this, send an apology to those you have jeered at because they are old enough to get married but are still single. Also send to those who have medical issues that make them feel embarrassed sometimes and no one seems to care about them.
Finally, decide that you would watch the comments you make about people and strive to weigh them before you say them so as not to compound their problems.
Leave me a comment on some nasty stuff people have said to you and how you reacted.
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This pimples on your face are terrible, go and buy so and so to clear it
Why does your hair keep balding in front of your head?
You have been married 2years when do you hope to start trying to have kids? etc..
What are you always doing with your salary that you cannot help Mr or Ms so and so?
Why are your eyeballs always red, do you smoke?
Have you ever been asked one of those questions or similar ones?
The answer to those is obvious; its definitely a YES!
The major problem with these advisers is that they just sit somewhere and assume they know exactly what your problem is. They then walk straight up to you and deliver their message like a prophet sent by God to proclaim doom.
A good friend of mine once made a comment about my face when I changed my dp. He said something nasty about the pimples I had then. I felt I was beautiful in that picture till he made me realize that I wasn't.
He zoomed in the picture and all he could saw were the spots on my face. I felt really bad and I took courage to tell him exactly how I felt. He apologized but words are like eggs, they can't be repaired after they have fallen.
These people take up the role of Mr 'I know it all' without having the slightest hint about the real situation and what steps you have taken to make it better. Nobody likes to be laughed at. And as if that is not enough, they go ahead and sit somewhere watching to see if you would or would not heed their advice.
They forget that right in their own eyes is a huge beam hindering them from properly analyzing the situation. They go around trying to remove the dust from other peoples' eyes.
Some persons have all the advise about how to make another persons child behave well while they forget about their troubled children. They know why others aren't getting things right in their lives whilst forgetting that thers is not perfect either.
It is disheartening that most people don't know when they are offering unsolicited advice or making a nasty comment. They seem to have good intentions.
My question is ....Are you sure you aren't guilty of such? Think about how many times you made a thoughtless comment about someone. You might have said it like a joke and everyone laughed it off but the person who is the subject of the discussion might not have found it funny. Some of those comments make people cry and feel miserable.
Many men and women in our society have different things they struggle with. For some its their health condition, financial status, marital challenges, family issues, jobs, addictions etc. The list is inexhaustible.
We owe our fellows a duty to make them live life in peace. If you can't make someone happy, don't make them feel worse.
As you read this, send an apology to those you have jeered at because they are old enough to get married but are still single. Also send to those who have medical issues that make them feel embarrassed sometimes and no one seems to care about them.
Finally, decide that you would watch the comments you make about people and strive to weigh them before you say them so as not to compound their problems.
Leave me a comment on some nasty stuff people have said to you and how you reacted.
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